Sabotaging Myself

"Self-sabotage refers to behaviours or thought patterns that hold you back and prevent you from doing what you want to do." 

How many times have you done this? I have done it plenty, I did it this morning and few minutes back, thats the reason of m writing this post. Not saying am proud of it on the contrary I am sharing this to bring a change in my daily tasks. 

me preparing new surface to paint

 

I usually hold myself responsible for many things but I never take the responsibility of being my worst critic.I can easily motivate people I love motivating fellow creatives but the struggle to keep a vision for myself gets lost quite easily. Yes I have achieved many things but I have also pulled my foot backwards from stepping towards my dream. If you do it to or did in past how did you come out of it? Did you know The most common self-sabotaging behaviours include procrastination

After recommendations from my sister (my Mentor /Coach) i have started reading to Psycho cybernetics and also started practising Silva Method, these practices have made me realize one major thing among many - we need to be aware of our limiting beliefs, our fears and then move on. As we move on, staying aware of the patterns we push ourselves into...the things that show up over and over again we can tackle them much easily. My biggest sabotage pattern is whenever I decide of a big goal instead of working on it or writing it down I will do everything else. Small jobs will start appearing in front of me - small design projects thats show me money flowing in or has urgent requirements, then housework or the family or internet! 

My Now Tactic - 

1) Write down my goals not only my daily tasks - Read my long term goal, mid terms goals and short term goals.

2) Five mins -15 mins relax , mediate , go for walk alone

3) B aware when a task comes in -how urgently does it need my attention? and why is it urgent? Only do the task till after I have completed something from my to do list that will take me a step closer to my dream. 

4) Say/ appreciate myself/ compliment myself be a small task or big or even if its a i made good tea! or i look nice

I am over all going to be aware why am i don't what am doing!  Please share with me if you found a way to deal with self sabotage.

Hugs - Understanding! Free Download Artwork

We thought it will be for 3 months...thens surely wont last more than 6 months ...that became a year and now its more than a year we are still in lockdown in a way or another. New York times article described the feeling as Languishing feeling!  Through this Pandemic frustration and with same time many other social protests rising I created the below artwork to be shared--- to help with letting others know how important they are in my life.  If you would like to download the printable artwork click here 

Understanding...
A year of missed hugs or more....a year of not being able to see you...a year of only listening on phone about other's joys and struggles...so many things i have missed and with so many heartbreaking things happening around me i wish i could send hugs out to whole world. 

.I simply want to send hug to myself too...hope with this image i can send those hugs out to many of you if not you all. Hope you can understand so how much you are valued and loved...we can feel each other's pain and worry, cant wait to see the light shining thru.

I have alwayd wanted to join in the prompts at @ifdrawaweek but this week i couldnt resist with such a caring prompt by @anna.garssen.Thank you for sharing this prompt.

Learning Always - Skillshare Gems

In March I published my first skillshare class 'Balancing Art Practice with Motherhood' - quite an intimate topic and I felt really vulnerable opening up but I wanted it to be personal. - In the Class i share with ideas for art practice  that i have used & learned over times while overpowering my beliefs as I became a mom- An Artist Mom.  Some of the feedback and reviews I received have been so heart touching especially when they have said the things i have shared could easily be applicable for people who aren't parents.  Few people even mentioned how different parts of the class topic really hit home and inspired them. Please do have a look or share with someone you think might relate - The class is 30 mins long.

My mom used to tell me to write down things so that I can remember better and My dad said recently being a Sikh means learning for life. As my class is performing well according to Skillshare I have received a year membership so i have plenty of amazing classes to learn from. 

Inspired by the saying of my mom and dad, I have  thought of sharing my take from various Skillshare classes or whatever I have learnt in written form here including  if there were any specific reviews I wanted to give to a Class. Hopefully somebody else will find it useful too.